Spoilers ahead
Content Warning: Assault, violence, dysphoria, transphobia, homophobia, deadnaming, bullying, cheating, use of slurs, suicidal thoughts, self-harm, public outing.
Stay Gold follows Pony, a senior finishing his high school experience at a new high school in Texas. A trans boy who has decided to go stealth, meaning he will keep his identity a secret. He left his old school because he was only known as ‘the transgendered one’. It’s difficult rebuilding yourself when everyone remembers who you used to be.
On the first day, Pony locks eyes with Georgina, a popular senior cheerleader, and there’s instant attraction between them. This is further accelerated when they find they are in every class together. Pony has to navigate the minefield of being honest and disclosing his identity with his desire to remain stealth for his final year of high school.
I liked that the story was told from first person of the two main characters, flipping back and forth between their perspectives. It felt good being inside the heads of both main characters. The author is trans as well, and many parts of this story felt real and personal. There was a lot of focus on how Pony felt when he was being mis-gendered, or when people would ask for his real name. “Pony is my real name” would be his response.
I felt like it was less of a book for trans people, and more of a book for those who have trans loved ones. There were some info dumps about some aspects of queer culture that anyone with basic experience would know, but having the internal dialogue of the main character is illuminating. A flippant aunt who dead names their niece, then hand-wave away the transgression, would benefit from this point of view. People who need to learn how important it is to recognize someone’s new identity.
Pony’s decision to be stealth is met with criticism from his best friend, out-and-loud Max, who pushes Pony to be more visible, and Pony’s sister Rocky, who has escaped Texas and moved to New York and found a community of like-minded individuals. Pony’s trans-ness causes friction with his father, who perpetually dead names and mis-genders him, causing more anxiety.
Stay Gold drives home the message of why trans people come out. Pony recalls how being forced to do things as a woman were pure agony, and even with the added complexities of navigating lies-by-omission, bathrooms, and painful binders, still feels right and good living in their own gender. Stay Gold serves as a really great introduction into the trans experience. It doesn’t go as deep into those issues as I would have liked, but we all have to start somewhere.
Near the end of the book, two characters are outed as lesbians at the homecoming dance. Pony announces that he’s transgender as a show of solidarity, and is promptly jumped in the bathroom, landing him in the hospital. What follows is the fairy-tale response. The perpetrators are thrown in jail, Georgina is moved by his bravery and chooses to throw her cares about her image to the wind, the community rallies behind Pony, raising thousands of dollars toward the top surgery he desperately needs, and even being named the homecoming king following a quick re-count. His father accepts his identity, his friends stick by his side, and a rally is thrown in his honour at the school.
I know I’m jaded, especially by events like the death of Nex Benedict, who was jumped in the bathroom, and later died, the world in general is failing to handle non-conforming people. The fairy tale ending just soured my experience on the book. It was a good read up to that point, but my disbelief flew out the window as everything resolved so perfectly for Pony. I understand why, it’s a comedy, not a tragedy. I wish the world would support people who have experienced such trauma with the immediate and fervent action that Stay Gold poses. Alas, I can’t really fault a romance story for being idyllic, can I?
